What is your ideal self?
Throughout our lives many of us strive towards being better, more ideal people, but who exactly are we trying to be? Does an ideal exist, and is it possible to reach?
No more playing the victim, no more whining, no more making excuses, no more procrastination, no more wasting your precious life. Whatever you need to do, do it. Do it now. Today. Grow up. Play the man. Play the woman. And if that is hard—and it is at times hard for all of us—then have the humility and courage to ask for help and mentoring...
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I am Douglas Adams´ point of view gun; I point one hand at Israel and one at Palestine, one at the US and one Iraq, and instantly we understand each other's perspective
Why stop there?
When I define my ideal self, I don't pay attention to these tendencies, nor other aspects of myself that I can't control. I also don't pay attention to everyday moods, mistakes and regrets either – these are things that I learn from and that become a part of the unique experience and personality that I'm proud of. I am my ideal self when I am in a general state of well-being – when I have the ability to enjoy life and contribute positively to the lives of others, the optimism and drive to forge ahead through challenges and the confidence to recover from disappointments...
In the morning, sunrise
In the evening, sunset
In between are clouds and sky
Who is the sun?
Even though the room was darker than a moonless night, I closed my eyes with the intention to quiet my racing thoughts and come to an inner consensus on what to do next. "Do you hear that?" "I think someone is walking towards us." "What should we do?" "Don't let him hear us." I gradually opened my eyes and turned towards the middle of our clumped mass, whispering to no one in particular...
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What keeps me from being the first ideal is the passage of time and the lessons of experience so my Popeye self is more realistic. Although I might wish that I were some how different—younger, better looking, smarter, more empathetic—the truth of the matter is that like Popeye I just am what I am. Although I might be able to polish some of the remaining rough edges I'm pretty much the person I've become with very little possibility of making major changes in my physical, emotional or psychological life...
The good news is that my ideal self is alive and well. The bad news is I don't often let it be. My concept of "ideal" is to live with balance in all the various parts of my life, giving enough time and energy for work, play, family, spirit, health and all the other components of living…